I think that acceptance is one of the hardest concepts to grasp. And certainly one of the hardest to put into practice.
But part of that difficulty arises because we misunderstand what acceptance actually means. We mistake it for passivity or fatalism or apathy. We believe that we must fight or struggle against life in order to ‘show it who’s boss.’
Certainly, there is nothing wrong with picking up the reins and guiding your life in the direction you want it to go. But, as Eckhart Tolle says, “Whatever you resist, persists.”
It’s not that you can’t make changes. It’s that, in order to make changes, you first need to accept fully the situation you are in.
Acceptance sometimes leads to coming to terms with the circumstances you are in, long-term–accepting those things that you can do nothing about and realising that the struggle is futile.
Other times, it can be a tremendous call to action.
But, with acceptance, that action will be considered, rational, focused and calm–not borne out of anger or panic.
Think of acceptance like simple acknowledgement. Look around. Acknowledge where you are and what’s going on as an observer, as though it is neither good nor bad, it just is.
Then you will know exactly what is needed.