Only a few moments ago, I slumped on the floor by your bed like a child and pressed my thumb into the fleshy nook of your elbow and felt the last waxy warmth between your ribs and your arm, as though you were still able to hold me. And I thought then about wandering upon the wet cobblestones in Galway after dark, live music from gallery bars competing with the rushing of the sea and the stars falling one by one like shivering birds shot out of the sky. Sleep well now, my love, and thank you for
Just a quick post to let you know that my beloved grandma passed away at 10:15am today. After the rollercoaster of the past few days, the end was very peaceful and we were all by her side. There is, of course, tremendous emptiness and sadness, but I am so grateful that both of my grandparents died, peaceful and warm, at home, surrounded by their family. They deserved that. Thank you so much for all of your kind words and thoughts over the past week or so. They have helped a lot.
We all know, deep down, it’s the simple things that count. But it’s been nice to put that knowledge into practice today–a relaxed Saturday wedged between two crazy busy weeks. My mum is staying with me, on a short break from caring for my grandmother, and more than anything she has needed to just unwind and take it easy. She is going through the whole spectrum of emotions at the moment, given that my grandma seems to be declining rapidly, and I can hear it in her voice and see it in her face that she desperately needs a break.
This beautiful lady, Eudora (Dora) is my grandmother. She has Alzheimer’s. She turned 85 on the 17th of August this year and, in the past two weeks, her mobility has decreased to very little, her speech is slurred and she sleeps much of the time. She can barely lift her chin from her chest. It is a change from the agitation and anger of the past couple of months, she is quiet and gentle at the moment, but her sudden deterioration is shocking and sad. She is in pain this afternoon, itching and aching everywhere, but she still finds the